Thomas Peter Tobin

  • Born: October 26, 1974
  • Died: April 28, 2021
  • Location: Brooklyn, New York

Pelham Funeral Home

64 Lincoln Ave
Pelham, NY 10803

Tel. (914) 738-1060

Tribute & Message From The Family

Thomas Peter Tobin passed away unexpectedly of cardiac arrest caused by an undiagnosed cardiomyopathy while exercising in his house in Cobble Hill, Brooklyn, NY on April 28, 2021. He was 46 years old.

Peter was born on October 26, 1974 in Teaneck, New Jersey to Thomas and Helen Tobin, raised in Pelham Manor, NY, and was the youngest after Maggie and David. Peter attended Pelham schools, graduated from Fordham Preparatory School ('92) and then attended the University of Colorado at Boulder. After Boulder, Peter set off to explore the world. An adventurer by heart, he traveled within the United States and then joined the United States Merchant Marines, successfully navigating the Suez Canal and serving on the maiden voyage of the USNS Bob Hope, a 950-foot military supply ship, supporting an army heavy brigade. Peter spent time in some of the world's most vibrant cities, including San Francisco, New Orleans, Buenos Aires, Tokyo, and New York. On his travels, he cooked and sailed, taught English, acquired tattoos, and amassed adventures that he recorded in masterfully descriptive language on the pages of his many journals. Peter's magnetic personality and fluid adaptability made it easy for him to move among strangers, quickly turning many into friends. His curiosity, sharp wit, and intellect propelled him through the world, in any direction that inspired him.

After circling the globe, an impromptu millennium trip to South America with his brother David resulted in a move to Argentina, where he taught English. Pete ultimately settled in New York, a city that promised to keep up with his tempo and didn't pose an imminent threat of boredom. Here he was inspired to conquer the business world of real estate and distressed finance. Peter was a founding member of both Mission Capital Advisors and more recently a founder and partner at Three Line Capital, an active distressed debt principal investor. During this time Peter met and married Dr. Nora Lansen in 2006 and three beautiful children quickly followed: Ella Rose in 2007, Penelope Margaret in 2010 and Thomas Ryder in 2012.

Pete was passionate about many things including skiing, sailing, cooking and all things outdoors, but fatherhood eclipsed them all. Pete was fully, undeniably present in the lives of his children. He adored them, challenged them, supported them, taught them to ski, swim, and ride bikes, read to them, talked with them, and made them giggle and laugh, always with the singular, true and genuine intensity that defined Pete. Words cannot express the chasm that will be left in their lives without him. Those who loved Pete and who love his children will work hard to soften the edges over time, filling the space with his memories and ethos.

He will be deeply missed by his parents, Helen and Tom (Kris), his siblings, David (Emily) and Maggie, as well as Nora and his children Ella, Penny and Ryder and his four nephews: Lorenzo, Seamus, Thomas and Hayes (the quintessential awesome uncle).

A celebration of Peter's life will take place at the Pelham Funeral Home, 64 Lincoln Avenue, Pelham, NY on Wednesday, May 5 from 4:00 to 8:00pm. A funeral mass will take place at Our Lady of Perpetual Help Church, 575 Fowler Avenue, Pelham Manor, NY on Thursday, May 6 at 10:00 am. Nora and his children, nephews and siblings will also celebrate his life on June 12th in the Colorado mountains that Peter loved at the Bob Weir concert. For more information or to leave a condolence, please visit In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to the Seafarers International Union Disaster Aid Fund (


Condolence & Memory Journal

To all of the wonderful Tobin family, I am so sorry to hear about the passing of Peter. He was such a wonderful person.

Posted by David Caballero - Tampa, FL - Family Friend   June 22, 2021

Dear Tobin family, we were so sorry to hear about Peter and our whole family sends our love to you all. We reminisced this weekend about good times in Pelham and how fondly we remember you. May he rest in peace.

Posted by Eric Ikauniks - Boston, MA - Neighbor   May 30, 2021

Sending you loving prayers Helen for the loss of your beloved son. So sorry to hear he was taken way too soon, ❤

Posted by Denise Marinaccio - Mamaroneck - Family Friend   May 23, 2021

Dear Nora and children, so sad about your loss. I pray that his charisma and love will live in your hearts always. Thinking of your entire family on this very sad occasion. TERRA MOORE and family

Posted by Terra Moore - Niantic,, CT - Friend   May 07, 2021

Dear Nora and family, our deepest condolences during these difficult times. Maura and Steve and the entire Walsh family

Posted by Maura Walsh - chappaqua, NY - Family Friend   May 05, 2021

Please accept my heartfelt condolences on this unexpected loss. My prayers and thoughts are with the entire family during this very difficult time.

Posted by Sylvi Tufariello - Naples, FL - Friend   May 04, 2021


Dear Helen, Kaz and I send our love and prayers to you and your family. We wish we had met your brother. He sounds like the perfect friend: father, adventurer, wonderful brother and uncle, loving children so deeply, and generous to everyone who needed him. Kaz, who grew up in Buenos Aires,would have loved to hear his impressions and thoughts on Argentine culture and politics. We will keep him in our prayers and, as Kaz's Polish father always said, light candles in heaven for him.

Posted by Christine (Wilk) and Kaz Kulikowski - Highland Park, NJ - Friend   May 04, 2021

RIP. Thinking of Nora and the kids right now - our prayers are with you.

Posted by Navya & Phil Andraos - Brooklyn, NY - friend   May 04, 2021

Luca and the Zagorski family send our deepest condolences to Ella and the Tobin family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this very difficult time. Please know that, as part of Ella's Basis family, you can call on us at any time for support or if we can help in any way.

Posted by Luca, Mark and Lorraine Zagorski - BROOKLYN, NY - Friend   May 03, 2021

My prayers and thoughts are with the family. My heartfelt condolences for your loss.

Posted by Sherry Ward - Murfreesboro, TN - Family   May 03, 2021

Dear Tobin Family, We are so very sorry to learn of your sudden and great loss. We are sending warmth and deeply felt condolences from the banks of the peaceful Mystic River. Peter brought so much joy into the world--may those memories surround you in his warmth.

Posted by Maggie and Paul Favretti and Duddy - Mystic, CT - Family Friend   May 03, 2021


Dear Tobin Family, Our sincerest condolences and prayers go out to you. We are so sorry for your loss and want you to know, Maggie, your Pfizer family are here for you. Sincerely, Clyda for WRDM S&ES GP Organization.

Posted by Clyda DiNicola - New London, CT - Coworker   May 03, 2021

Dear Tobin Family, Words cannot express our sadness as a school community. Peter leaves behind his legacy in his children who boldly embrace his values and sense of adventure. As a school, we will be here when the children need to cry or laugh. We are here, and I hope you will call on us. Sincerely, Hadley

Posted by Hadley Ruggles - Brooklyn, NY - Teacher   May 03, 2021

Rest In Peace brother

Posted by Dom Gaccino - Yorktown Heights, NY - Classmate   May 02, 2021

We are so deeply sorry. We cherish our memories with Pete - in Pelham, NYC, Brooklyn, in NH when he and Nora and their kids came to visit us, and in CT, the last time we saw him. We will especially miss his salty sense of humor, his adventurous spirit, his culinary artistry, and his unparalleled DJ skillz. Our hearts ache for his children. Thinking of your family with love, and wishing you peace and comfort during this difficult time. Cheers to Pete's life! ~ way too short, but well-lived, indeed.

Posted by Colleen and Clement Madden - Dunbarton, NH - Friend   May 02, 2021

We are so very sorry to hear of your great loss. Our deepest condolences go out to the family.. Our prayers are with dearest Nora & your beautiful children during this different time. May his soul RIP. Sending you all so much love..

Posted by Razan Jandali - Houston, TX - Friend   May 02, 2021

Dear Helen,
I am stunned to hear of the untimely death of your beloved son, Peter.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.
Christine Fix, Eastchester, NY

Posted by christine fix - Eastchester, NY - Acquaintance   May 02, 2021

Dear Helen and family I'm so very sorry to hear of your son Pete's untimely and unexpected death. Your beautiful family has a gaping hole but those left behind will fill it with love and beautiful memories. Sending love

Posted by Judi Peacock - Nyack, NY - Friend   May 02, 2021

A família Tobin nosso pesar pela lamentavel perda de Thomas Peter .

Posted by Anna e Sérgio Silveira e Martins - São Paulo - Family Friend   May 02, 2021

You have so beautifully summarized a life that did not know boundaries or limits. Pete was a real Hemingway man, who loved adventure and new challenges. Despite that, he was an amazing father and provider. Tough on the outside, yet so gentle and nurturing to his beloved children. He taught them to be unafraid and to love -- what a beautiful legacy. That legacy was too short, but will remain etched in their hearts forever.

Posted by Tom & Tara Lansen - Naples, FL - Family   May 02, 2021

There are no words. May God's grace embrace each of you as you grieve.

Posted by Gelsie Lessig - Family Friend   May 02, 2021

So sorry for your loss Maggie thoughts to you and your family love to all

Posted by Dominic Hyland - Bedfordshire - Friend   May 02, 2021

Sending sincere prayers for Peter, his wife, children, mother and father and siblings and all dear friends who are suffering this painful loss. May God give you strength. May Peter Rest In Peace in Heaven.

Posted by Carole Deering - Springfield, PA - Friend   May 01, 2021


Peter, I can remember the Christmas's we spent together as children, I alway looked forward to going to the Tobin house for dinner and seeing my cousin's! It was alway a joy full time for our families. You lived life full Pete and we all will all see you again -

Posted by Peter Bisconti - West Palm Beach, FL - Family   May 01, 2021

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Pete and Ryder